East/West Love?

I cannot understand how the dynamics of relationships can vary across the globe. Personal experience (ouch) tells me that apparently girls- at least here on our sunny island- tend to usually be the ones who break up more frequently and perhaps more easily with their boyfriends rather than the other way around. So many stories I've heard about fellow Singaporean guys loving their hearts out for their female partners and getting zilch at the end of the day. I don't know if it's even a trend, though it certainly seems that way to me, and I don't know if it's the issue of being the wrong fit or girls being the more mature party, or simply a shared personality trait amongst all the guys I know that had indirect influence on these unfortunately bad endings. 

Pop culture, television, even Thought Catalog seems to portray the idea of Western females traditionally being the more 'submissive' and 'controlled' of the two in any heterosexual relationship, and while that might be quite far from the truth, it really does seem like the western girls are the ones who struggle with getting over boyfriends who've left them. Quite a role reversal if you take a comparison with our society. 

The only slightly logical explanation is perhaps how us Asian guys tend to be gentler, calmer, more tender beings as opposed to the traditional manly Westerner with his tough skin and rough talk. And there shouldn't be an argument against girls (even girls here) who actually want a guy to be able to hold his own, and give her that sense of security she needs in the face of other tough guys/bad eggs she might face. In a fair word for all Singaporean guys out there, we hardly have anything we need to protect our girls from in our society bar the stray pervert in the bus or some lone pickpocket, and yes we're raised to respect our counterparts, whoever they may be, and to talk before throwing that punch- or usually not throw a punch at all. I should think girls don't actually need someone to throw punches for them, but they do need someone who can stand up for them when they face other forms of hardship like dismissive parents or horrible bosses. And when we fail to do even that.. Well, we fail. And we fall horribly when she leaves us. The thing is, why does she seem to hurt so much less than we do? We've shared the same hugs and same kisses, went through the same trials and the same experiences, and somehow one party comes out crippled while the other, strengthened (usually). And "when you think the worst is a broken heart," (The Script) Yep, you haven't seen the second part. We keep believing that because she loved us like we loved her, she'll hurt, too, as much as we do. And when we don't see that happening we start doubting and we start hurting even worse than when the breakup occurred (yes that is possible). Let's not even start about the part where she starts getting close to every other guy she meets. The truth is, I don't think anyone knows what exactly happens, and I don't think she realizes what's going on, either. It's her fault for not being aware of what she's doing to you, and it's your fault too for not moving on and clinging onto a lost hope. I've come to realize that playing a blame game never works out well- she doesn't even owe you anything anymore once that 'contract' you had is over. Basically, you've lost everything in a gamble, and you've gotta accept that you won't be able to get anything quite like it back, ever again. 

The beauty of it all is slowly healing and hurting and learning to smile at the memories instead of crying. I still have no idea how they leave so quickly, I don't know if they have a conscience in existence, but we do need to know we need to leave, too. Or try, at the very least.